I just passed the one-year mark of marriage late last month, but just a few months after tying the knot, the Nigerian women at my church started peppering me with questions and comments about when I was going to have a baby. No one else in my life has ever made mention of motherhood to me (if they have, they’ve told me to wait and “enjoy this time by yourselves”). But a year after saying, “I do,” that’s all these particular women talk about — and it literally makes me want to find a new house of worship.
But if that is the pressure people put on me a short time after getting married, I can understand why rapper Eve, married for three years to British millionaire Maximillion Cooper, is so irritated about inquiries into her age and why she hasn’t “given” her husband a child. She discussed this issue while guest co-hosting The Talk this week.
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“I am so sick about people making a big deal about women’s ages. They don’t do this to men,” she said. “My 39th birthday is next week, it’s in eight days, and the one question that I get is men and women ask me, ‘How old are you again? Oh, you don’t have any kids? How old are you again?’ And I’m like, ‘You heard me say how old I am.’”
The rapper, who is stepmother to Cooper’s four children, says men in their life even question her about it, and what makes it all the more disrespectful is the fact that she and Cooper have been trying.
“It annoys me because one time, one of my friends, a male friend said to me, ‘When are you going to give my friend some kids?’” she said. “As a man you don’t — anyone! No one should do it. We are trying, for anybody who is asking, but it’s up to God and the universe. Just stop asking questions. And by the way, she’s beautiful. Who cares how old she is? And she’s talented.”
The last time Eve broached the subject of parenthood was last summer at the premiere of her film, Barbershop: The Next Cut. She seemed thrilled at the idea of being a mom and said she was having fun trying to conceive “all the time!” with Cooper.
“We can’t wait to have kids of our own. Whoever is in charge, make it happen. I can’t wait.”