What It’s Really Like To Date Your Friend’s Ex

Let’s get this out of the way first because we’re all thinking it: you probably shouldn’t date your friend’s ex. If at all possible, avoid dating your friend’s ex. It’s sort of one of those unspoken life rules. But then again, there are exceptions to every rule. You may find yourself in the rare situation where your friend is truly over her ex (or says she is), gives you full permission to date her ex, and knows that you and her ex are actually a great match. So let’s say nobody’s feelings are hurt on either end of things, and you know that your friend’s ex is the man you’re meant to be with—things are still bound to be a little weird. Nobody can help that! Here is what it’s really like to date your friend’s ex.

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She can relate to the fights

When you complain to your friend about annoying things your partner does or the fights you have, she can totally relate. She used to date him! She completely understands your frustration, which is at once comforting and strange. It almost feels especially wrong to vent about your boyfriend to your friend when they used to date. She certainly doesn’t have an objective opinion.